Meet my True Friend
Being a friend has really never proved to be a great task but being a real and true one could definitely suck the juice out of you.
Friendship as quoted anonymously “isn’t about whom you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it.”
Firstly, real friends are honest. You cannot venture into a business or even a relationship and succeed without this quality, honesty. If you want to be a real and true friend you have to be honest with yourself first of all. This also means you have to be real and true to yourself, without this you cannot be same to someone else.
When you have the ability to tell yourself the truth, it won’t be difficult to tell your friend the truth. For instance, it takes a lot to tell a friend about his/her dirty habits. So, you’d rather stand by while people twitch their noses at him/her. When he/she comes crying, you become the most wonderful emotional towel to dry the tears instead of being really honest. So to be a real friend, you have to be honest.
Indeed, honest friends are often neglected but when tough decisions come by, you’ll be the first to know. This is why another attribute is necessary when even being an honest friend; your ability to know and understand your friend’s weaknesses. This way you know when and how appropriate it is to speak the truth, to talk to your friend or to even give him/her some space.
You can carry out different activities with him/her and be a winner at it if you can give room for understanding. Understanding however takes time to be built, it is a school for eternity, like they say: “you can never really know someone completely, what makes the difference is you trying”.
Overtime, what builds a strong friendship are the five magic words: Please, excuse me, sorry, thank you and pardon me. Wherever necessary that these words apply, it is important to say them. It means you respect and appreciate your friend. No real and true friendship is too old for these words.
Furthermore, to be a real and true friend involves you being selfless. This is indeed hard as no one actually wants to be selfless. You could get into situations where you are there for friends but they never show up for you. Being selfless is therefore a decision. Your friend might not do same for you but it is what makes you real and true and you’ll surely be rewarded, “one good turn deserves another”, they say.
Many attributes that make up a real and true friend seem to show up time after time but finally, no one wants a blabber mouth and a back stabber for a friend, so to be a real and true friend you have to be loyal and trustworthy.
Being loyal means your friend can count on you at all times. It means no one can easily get comfortable around you when gossiping about your friend, as funny as it may sound. It means you are always standing in for him/her. Being trustworthy adds up that you can keep a secret, you are like a secret power house, a standby to your friend.
However, real and true friends have always been those who see themselves in their friends and are willing to even die for them, it may sound extreme but it is a fact. It remains nostalgic how years back a man was willing to give up a kidney to save his brother’s life despite the odds that the ailment might also come for him too. He explained: “I found a friend in my brother, I cannot do without him”. He didn’t die; he was and is still his friend’s power house. Nothing has actually been better than meeting a friend who is willing to be true as you want to be to him/her.